Podcast #35: It’s OK If You Don’t Have a Big Friend Group
Did you envision your adult social life would be a lot like the TV show Friends? Or maybe Sex and the City? You know the vibe… it’s that tight-knit big group of friends who are your go-to’s for literally every social situation. Unfortunately, for a lot of us twenty-somethings, that is not the case.
Many of us have a series of miscellaneous friends who aren’t friends with each other. There’s Stacy from high school, Lisa from college, Jenna from work, and Hannah from your weekend volleyball team. Wouldn’t it be nice if they could all meld together into a magical friend group?
Unfortunately, that’s probably not going to happen, so instead, we should be talking about how that is totally freaking normal.
A Big Group of Friends Isn’t All It’s Cracked Up To Be
On the one hand, you don’t have a go-to group to hang with on SuperBowl Sunday and instead you have to awkwardly third wheel your boyfriend and his bros. But, on the other hand, you don’t have to deal with messy dynamics or toxic friendships that you can’t get rid of because they’re “part of the group.”
And, you don’t have to coordinate six different people’s work schedules, budgets, and expectations every time you want to take a weekend trip. Plus, it’s way less effort to maintain fewer friendships!
Listen to this episode to feel a little less alone. Hopefully, you’ll walk away with some practical advice on managing a no friend group lifestyle.
We cover the FOMO you might experience every time you see that squad photo show up on your feed, why it’s normal to not have a cohesive friend group as you get older, and how to come to terms with the fact that your life isn’t going to look like Carrie Bradshaw’s. RIP closet full of Manolos. See you in our dreams.
So while you might not have a massive group chat to text every Friday night, don’t sweat it. It’s normal. And Bumble BFF is accepting applications.