Podcast #34: Navigating the Dating Apps
In this week’s podcast episode, we deep dive into dating app advice. We talk about dating app red flags, tips for making a strong dating app profile, and how to protect your energy while navigating the apps. Make sure to tune into the episode wherever you get your podcasts, or read on for an overview of what we discussed.
Should You Be On Dating Apps?
While every single person can find a way to make use of the dating apps, there is no doubt that you’ll be more successful if you go into it with the right attitude. And in today’s increasingly online world, meeting your partner online becomes more and more likely. According to a 2019 study by Stanford sociologist Michael Rosenfeld, 39 percent of heterosexual couples met online in 2017, compared to just 22 percent in 2009.
Given that a pandemic and five years have happened in the interim, we’re willing to bet that the number is way higher today.
All of that to say, if you want to be on the apps, you should be. It’s definitely become way more socially acceptable in recent years, and if you’re someone who typically doesn’t spend a lot of time meeting new people, dating apps might be the best way to meet a new partner.
Your Mindset Matters
Before you decide to take the plunge and download Hinge (or, let’s be honest, re-download Hinge), it’s important to consider your mindset. Try to go in with low expectations (while still maintaining high standards, of course). Basically, don’t expect to meet your knight in shining armor on your first swipe. We all know how The Tinder Swindler ended.
If you embrace being single, you won’t feel as desperate to enter into just any relationship with the first fake diamond heir you encounter. And, if you have a series of bad dates, take care of yourself before embarking on another. Deleting the dating apps and taking a break is a good idea from time to time.
Pay Attention to Red Flags
While it can be hard to discern all the potential red flags on a dating app profile, you should pay attention when they come up. It’s easy to see a hottie with a body on an app and decide that politics aren’t that big of a deal to you… until your first date ends in a political tirade that is totally mismatched with your personal belief system.
If there are red flags, don’t just close your eyes to them. Some other examples of this include overly sexual comments really early on (or even on their profile), no early plans to meet up off the app, lazy profiles with bad pictures or prompt responses, opposite or mismatched religious or political beliefs, and whatever else matters a lot to you.
Dating Podcast: Final Thoughts
Make sure to listen to Adultescence podcast for our full breakdown on everything to do with dating apps. We talk in detail about everything in this article, in addition to the best dating app brands and how to craft an enticing profile and prioritize your own mental health.