It’s the holiday season… a time of year hallmarked by mistletoe moments and house swaps with strangers that result in true love (hi, Jude Law). But this year, you feel like beating to the tune of your own drum like the little drummer boy himself. If all you want for Christmas is no one asking intrusive questions about your dating life, read on.
While all of your friends are getting cuffed, you may find yourself spraining your thumb swiping left while trying to snag the perfect corporate holiday party date. But dating during the holiday season isn’t all that it’s cracked up to be (nor is bringing a virtual stranger to meet your colleagues). We’re here to give your poor thumb a break, and encourage you to delete dating apps during the holidays and embrace being single… for now.
Dating During the Holidays: Why it Sucks
Have you ever anticipated your holiday bonus, only to see it hit your bank account taxed at 40%? That’s how we view dating during the holidays–high expectations with a low return.
The holiday classics want us to believe otherwise. Thanks, Hallmark Channel. Dating during the holidays seems effortless–pick up a man off the street and bring him home to your family under the pretense of a fake boyfriend, only to realize you’re actually madly in love. Or meet an exotic European prince in a holiday market. But we’ve all been around the block enough to know that unless you’re Vanessa Hudgens, the chances of that actually happening are slim.
Dating during the holidays can induce anxiety during an already stressful time of year. Everyone is occupied with their own obligations: corporate holiday parties, Friendsgivings, travel, religious ceremonies. This leaves very little time for romantic strolls through the Christmas lights with your second-date beau. Or even responses to your cute Snapchats. That is, if you’re stuck in 2013.
You’re also confronted with more awkward situations than usual. Should you wish each other a Merry Christmas? Or buy each other a gift? Do you tell them about your awkward family dynamics? These are things that can be avoided altogether if you do as the Romans do and delete dating apps until at least January 1st… sorry Hinge.
And just imagine all of the dudes singing Christmas carols on the new Hinge voice memo feature. It’s scary enough for us to make a resolution to never return to the apps in the new year.
5 Reasons You Should Delete Dating Apps
So, is a dating app detox for you? We’ve compiled five reasons you should delete all dating apps during the most wonderful time of the year. But before we do so, let us be clear. We are huge proponents of dating apps under normal circumstances.
Dating apps are a great tool to meet prospective partners, and if you play your cards right, you could meet some awesome people on them (or at least score a free drink). But as in all good things, absence makes the heart grow fonder.
And if we’re being honest with ourselves, the holidays don’t always bring out the best sides of us. More like a stressed out, dry-skinned, egg-nogged-out version of ourselves that, coincidentally, our mom still loves.
With that disclaimer, let’s dive in to all the reasons you should delete dating apps this winter.
1. You will spend less time on your phone.
Like the dreaded Instagram doom-scroll, you may find yourself popping on Hinge whenever you have an idle second. Boredom can lead to a lot of swiping, and therefore a lot of screen time. By deleting dating apps from your phone, you’ll free up mental space to focus instead on how creepy Kris Kringle is in Santa Claus is Coming to Town. And that is worth your full attention.
Being more present during the holidays means you won’t have to spend precious family time wondering if you’re going to get a Christmas message on Bumble from Mike who works at Goldman Sachs. Because the truth is, he wasn’t going to send you one anyway. In 2022, hopefully you have the clarity to not date Mikes from Goldman Sachs.
2. You’ll have time to get reinvigorated by dating.
Dating can be absolutely draining–especially when you’re meeting someone online and crossing your fingers that you actually like them IRL. It’s not uncommon to go on app dates where you realize five minutes in that you’ll never be attracted to this person. Or fall absolutely in love immediately only for them to never text you again. Not that we have any personal experience with that. Ahem.
Taking a dating app break can allow you to refocus your energy on yourself and the people in your life who fill you up. Plus, taking time off can help you gain clarity around what you really want in a partner. And it might not be someone who says their dream dinner guest is Michael Scott.
3. You can avoid awkward situations.
Accidentally ending up under the mistletoe after a bad date? Not fun. Giving someone a Christmas gift that only scares them off? Not pleasant. Having Tina ask you if ‘I don’t want anything serious’ Greg is your boyfriend at the office holiday party? Not cute.
The holidays are an inherently romantic time. Love is in the air and people are off their rockers. To avoid the awkward googly eyes from strangers and questions about your nonexistent relationship status with your new beau, you could just not have a new beau! Problem solved.
We realize deleting dating apps might not fully spare you of this burden. You could, after all, still meet a new crush at Santa Con. But it may be wise to save your dates for after January 1st when dating feels like pressure-y. Until Valentine’s Day, that is.
4. You’ll get more of your prospective partner’s focus after the holidays.
We’re all running around like chickens with our heads cut off during the holiday season. Between holiday parties, gift shopping, tree lightings and ice skating, there’s very little time to date. And even if you do meet someone you’re willing to skip The Nutcracker for, they might not be willing to do the same for you.
Clawing for someone’s attention during an already busy time of year is a recipe for a relationship that goes nowhere. By deleting your apps until the new year, you can save the best matches for a time when they can actually focus on you. Bonus: ever heard of the post-holiday blues? It’s your perfect opportunity to swoop in and be someone’s beacon of light.
5. You can focus your energy on having fun and relaxing.
The holidays should be about spending time with the people who make your life full: friends, family, favorite coworkers, your community. Strangers, and especially those who don’t always make us feel good, can take away from that magic.
The last thing you want is to wake up on Christmas day with a text from someone saying they don’t see a future with you. Or worse, being fully ghosted after what you thought was the best date of your life. Instead, focus on doing things that make you feel great, appreciate the people who make your life wonderful, and eat sugar cookies without restraint.